• A picture of a black woman looking directly at the camera

    Health as Shame

    The point is that diets have become a way of capitalizing on our shame. Just follow these few rules and you will feel superior to all others. If you fall off the wagon, shame on you. You just need to try harder. Just think of how much better you would feel at 110 pounds in that bikini.

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    September 10, 2018 By ayearofdoing
  • I have found that relaxing experiences can become traumatic experiences because of my status as a black plus size woman.

    The Problem With Self-Care

    I am a big proponent of self-care. For me,self-care is an affirmation that my needs are valid. However, self-care is now big business in the consumerist culture that as American as apple pie. The big business of self-care is one that I find both intriguing and appalling. The problem with self-care business is that everyone […]

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    July 30, 2018 By ayearofdoing
  • I choose to be sober because I recognize that part of living a healthy life means feeling pain

    Choosing Sobriety

    The word ‘sober’ and I have an interesting relationship. Sobriety, it seems to me, is an after effect of a bout of alcoholism or substance abuse. What then do you call someone who has never drunk alcohol or battled other forms of substance abuse? I started thinking about this recently because I was reading a thread on […]

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    July 23, 2018 By ayearofdoing